4 Steps to Becoming an AWE FULL Person

“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” –W.B. Yeats

I was sitting in a pastry shop with a new friend I had met just a few days before. We were talking about our businesses, sharing war stories about how we got started and where we hope to take our passions in the future.

We had been talking for about 30 minutes and because we were both engrossed in the conversation we didn’t pay much attention to what was going on around us. Out of what seemed like nowhere a man approached our table. Neither one of us knew this man. The man looked right at my new friend and said, “I don’t know why I feel this way but for some reason I just know that if I were to tell you my strife you would be a great listener.”

Have you ever been a witness to deep, pure honesty, open vulnerability or felt such powerful awe toward another human being?

I was awe struck and silent. I just kept listening to this man tell his story to my friend and watched my friend listen and try to help this man.

I’ve had moments of awe in my life; when my children were born, when I see a rainbow, when something I was baking came out right on the first try, when I am aware enough to be able to recognize a miracle. Never in my life had I been in the presence of someone that, without trying or purpose, positively affected a total stranger just by existing in the same space.

The dictionary defines awe as an emotion that varies between inspiring dread, veneration and wonder. Synonyms include admiration, amazement, astonishment, wonder, wonderment. I think I felt all of those things in an instant.

After having experienced that awe struck feeling in such a powerful way I wanted to understand how to be that kind of person. What would it feel like to positively affect another human being simply because I existed or simply because my positive energy was flowing out toward others? Watching my new friend interact with the man, I noticed that my friend did not seem fazed by a stranger approaching him in that way. Being an outside observer I had to then wonder was my friend immune or becoming immune or just not in touch with his own light or his own positive energy?

“A miracle is often the willingness to see the common in an uncommon way.” –Noah Beshea, Jacob the Baker: Gentle Wisdom for a Complicated World

No. My friend was not immune or becoming immune and I do believe he knew something of his own light. He was being his divine self and honoring his purpose to help someone in need. THAT is awesome. It was a moment of purity, humility, clarity for me, selflessness and just plain honor.

I started searching inside of myself to better understand awe. Words like reverence, trust, humility, integrity, curiosity, grace and authenticity came up.

I think reverence was the strongest of these words. Reverence is the outward manifestation of awe; a gesture indicating deep respect. Reverence honors, respects, esteems, and adores a person or action. I definitely felt all of this in the moment of witnessing the honesty of this stranger as he spoke out loud to my friend. I reached out my hand to touch my friends’ arm because in that moment I was not in control of what I was doing. I had to touch that energy and connect with the reverence I was feeling in that moment.

How sad it is that moments like these are so few or noticed so infrequently that when we are struck by it we immediately take notice of the strange feeling it invokes in us and how we also feel humbled. How amazing it is that we are given the opportunity every day to recognize the awesomeness of those moments when they happen and let the experience seep into our soul. I would hate to take for granted reverent and awe struck moments.

“I never wake up in the morning and wonder why I am here. I wake up and wonder why I am not making here better.” –Jeffrey Fry

I wonder both thoughts actually. Sometimes when life seems to be crashing down around me and I can’t find a single thing that makes me feel good about my existence that’s when I wonder why I am here. But I have to say that most of the time I question every day not so much why I am not making here better but how I can make here better. I think, for me, inside of that “how” question is the humility and reverence I am looking for.

So how can someone keep awe and reverence as part of their humanness? Some people will go directly to religion and some people will just do good works. I like to reflect back on something my mom had said to me as I was growing up, “Never forget what it was like when you were….”.

This one thought is very powerful for me. I have often interjected endings like “when I was 13 years old, or when I was a first time parent, or when I was a business owner.” It doesn’t matter how the thought manifests itself, the point is to always stay in touch with the feeling because that is where your energy and your unique light will shine for someone else to grab onto.

Children are a blank slate. Just about everything they experience is an awesome moment; a wondrous moment. Their own wonderment is what helps their brains grow and expand and inspires their curiosity. Their awe moments push them forward. Have you ever noticed that when children experience understanding in an awe inspired moment, such as the telling of a joke or the sudden impact of emotion at all, that children will immediately look to a parent, grandparent or respected older person for confirmation of their understanding? I noticed that very thing while my kids were growing up. They were in the throes of understanding something they couldn’t understand before and the impact it had on them. They looked to me to see if I “get it” and that we were sharing the same wonderful experience together. That is awe and reverence.

How about as an adult? Do we experience awe moments anymore? Sure we do. Every morning that we wake up and have a chance at this new, clean slate of a day we are blessed with the awesome possibilities that day could bring. What will you notice today? What will catch inside of you to set today apart from yesterday? Where did an awe moment exist for you today?

There is a way to keep awe and reverence alive inside of you even in the throes of a difficult life.

  • Define your moments of awe. Is it a sunset or is it the way a newborn baby curls its fingers around your finger? Is your moment of awe a walk in nature or might it be the way your garden flourishes or the way the bird sings? Stay conscious of your awe moments as they come along.
  • Create moments of awe. If your child laughing takes your breath away then create moments where you just know you will hear your child laugh. If watching your child pray is an awe moment for you then create moments of prayer wherever possible. Attract to yourself that which will enhance your attention to magical, mystical, awe inspiring life moments. You attract to you that which you put your attention to, energy to and focus to. This could be negative or positive. Choose your attention, energy and focus wisely and thoughtfully.
  • Slow down. Awe moments happen most often when we are not paying attention to them. Notice when you are “caught” in the majesty of an awe moment. You’ll know it right away because your breath will change, your senses will prickle and your mind will instinctively know that this moment you are in, as fleeting as it is, is something special. Honor it as best you can. Let it sink deep into your soul. Pass along the feeling to anyone who would be interested in hearing the story.
  • Consider the health benefits. Studies are now finding that a sense of awe throughout our lives has a positive affect on our health.
  • Time. It will take time to create a habit of recognizing and celebrating awe moments. Allow the time to work its magic. One fine day you will realize that the miracles and awe you become aware of were not something you set out to recognize. It just became a part of your everyday activity and your life will seem quite miraculous. AWESOME!

Call to Action

Try these 4 tips over a 2 month time frame. Tell me how awe and reverence has increased in your life. What have you noticed, what has been magnified in your view of your life? What have other people noticed about you that make them want to share your new perspective, new energy, or new light?

If you would like to explore more about personal growth, creating awe moments, or discovering what more you have inside of you please call for a free discovery session in my Art of YOU coaching program. You can reach me by calling 203-560-3061 or send an email to: lisa@journeyoncoaching.com.

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4 Powerful Ways to make a Soul Connection

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How do you receive messages from the universe?

In what ways do you stop what you are doing to listen to the messages?

Where in your body do you feel connected to the messages being sent to you?

How do you show gratitude for the messages?

“Gracious acceptance is an art…..an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting things, which can be much harder than giving….. Accepting another person’s gift is allowing him/her to express his/her feelings for you.” –Alexander McCall Smith

For me, messages come along every day. I hear them in simple quotes that come along just at the “right” time, I hear them in lyrics to a song especially when I’ve heard the song many times but THIS time I am really listening, I hear them in certain words that people use that get my attention, I hear them in stories that clients tell me or stories that I read, or when emotion and energy are high. These messages are the ones that let me know that I am about to learn something and really need to pay attention.

I recently met someone that my soul connected with quickly and deeply. I wasn’t looking for this kind of connection and I wasn’t prepared for it when it came. I remember saying to this person upon our first face to face encounter how weird I was feeling at the moment we hugged “hello” because I felt like I had known him all my life. I felt peaceful and alive. I was easily able to maintain eye contact with him during the entire time we were in conversation, I was not distracted at all by what was going on around me, I recognized little things we had in common, passions for causes larger than ourselves that were in complete synchronicity to our life purposes, we connected in the same kind of spiritual/life language that each of us spoke and our curiosity about life itself seemed very much aligned. It was powerful for me because I had never known a connection like this in my life.

The connection for me was undeniable and I know it will stay with me forever.  I’d like to believe that the purpose for our encounter was to exchange an energy vibration that we each needed to recognize in order to move forward with our own life purpose. We are not friends or colleagues or acquaintances. As quickly as the connection was made it was gone. We were just two souls passing through each other’s lives for an oh so brief moment and I believe that the purpose was to leave a message. For me the message was to stay open, live with passion, receive with humility and gratitude, consider everything that comes my way and pay it forward and to find the love, endlessly, in everything I do.

“To regret one’s own experiences is to arrest one’s own development. To deny one’s own experiences is to put a lie onto the lips of one’s own life. It is no less than a denial of the soul.” –Oscar Wilde

A soul connection doesn’t happen very often, at least not for me. It’s kind of like when Bugs Bunny knew in his body that a carrot was beneath his feet and his whole being would vibrate and shake and tremor. Do you remember that cartoon episode? That was a soul connection; no doubt, no hesitation, no second guessing. He was so in tune with his own soul vibrations that he knew to trust it when it showed up that strongly.

Perhaps you have had a similar experience like when you catch a suspended moment in a stranger’s eyes or when you seem to easily strike up a conversation with someone when you know well that making small talk is not your strongest character strength. I believe that you were recognizing the other person’s amazing beauty and vibration. You found a comfort in their soul and connected to it right away. These micro moments of recognition, of messages that are trying to reach your soul are so powerful and everlasting that you are changed forever. The universe is speaking to you, asking you to be present, to notice, to stay open, and to recognize your own beauty and vibration because you matter too.

“Anything is possible. Stay open, forever, so open it hurts, and then open up some more, until the day you die, world without end, Amen.” –George Saunders

Listening to your soul vibrations, making a soul connection to the messages that are being sent to you is a practice worth strengthening. Very often we block out the messages that come to us for reasons like we don’t feel deserving, or we don’t want to hear that particular message or we were taught at a young age to stay focused on what is right in front of us….not to read too much into things, etc.

What would happen if we stopped to smell the roses, to savor the moment a message was sent?

How much more connected to our soul, our inner voice would we be?

What beauty would we find with this new, enlightened realization that the message was trying to send?

I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” –Dr. Brene` Brown

The soul connection I felt to this new person that swiftly breezed through my life was a strong vibration that forced me to take notice. It opened up words inside of me that have been sitting at the surface of my soul but for some reason I was denying their existence. Words like reverence, awe, grace, spirituality, forgiveness, wonder, and self-worth. These are scary words for me to delve into. Each one of them is asking me to face demons that I feel I am not ready to face. But what if the message is that the universe feels that I am ready to face these words? What happens if I keep denying them? What happens if I open up each word one at a time and discover their power and their soul and make a connection?

So, that is what I am going to do. I am going to open each word and learn more about myself, about connection, and about how to use these amazing words to strengthen my existence and purpose.

I am starting with soul connections because that is the strongest feeling and word combination that has attached to me. Each of us has a unique energy or vibration that we live with and that lives within us.

Sometimes we let it drain out of us when we are feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, angry, lonely or unlovable. Sometimes we feel an abundance of energy and find it hard to contain. We may have recently had a lot of good things happen or we may be awakening to a new understanding or awareness that has changed our lives from the inside out and we feel compelled to connect with people of the same energy and awareness. I think that most of the time we live in a steady stream of energy that when honed properly guides us through our day to day and helps us make decisions and connections.

Have you ever noticed how you feel connected to someone romantically but not to everyone you meet?

Have you ever noticed how you feel connected to someone with a bit more compassion than normal, or clarity about their story, or playfulness or negativity?

Have you ever noticed feeling connected to someone but not recognizing connection back from them?

What were you meant to connect about?

Each soul connection vibrates your own energy toward that person’s own energy. Some people are meant to stay within a soul connection for a long time and some are meant to stay only for a short time but each connection serves a purpose. We may never know the true purpose but I believe that staying open to allowing those connections to be made and then knowing when to let go is very important. I don’t believe in empty soul connections. I may not feel the same energy connection toward someone that has a strong energy connection to me but that doesn’t mean that my purpose in their life is meaningless or vice versa. I do believe that when the purpose is served the relationship will end and we will both be better for having made that connection, if we allow for that learning and awareness.

So how do you begin to create awareness toward a soul connection?

Here are 4 ways that have helped me to create connection:

Live with intention:

“You’ve been given the innate power to shape your life….but you cannot just speak change, you have to LIVE change. Intent paired with action builds the bridge to success. You can’t just want it; you have to do it, live it… BE it! Success isn’t something you have, it’s something you DO! – Steve Maraboli

My soul connection came about because my intention was to network with people who had the same intention as I do to help bring about a positive change, one person at a time. Had I not taken the leap of faith and initiated the conversation, the connection, then none of this would be possible.

Ask for connection through the universe and through reaching out to other people:

“I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” —  Maya Angelou

As I mentioned above, I reached out. I made the connection live through declaring my intention to connect. I always ask the universe to please guide me to the people that can help me so that I can then in turn help them. Every person I meet has the potential to connect me to the next person and get me to where I want to go. I know when I’ve connected positively because the feedback is intense and positive.

Seek out attributes in other people, places and activities that make you feel alive:

“Seek out that particular attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice that says, ‘This is the real me,’ and when you have found that attribute, follow it.” –William James

This is an on-going process for me. I am always looking for ways to expand my knowledge, my connections, and my tribe. I try to look for people and groups and activities that are of the same thought processes and intentions as mine. I believe more soul connections are possible if I surround myself with people who think about the world and see the world the way I do or hope to. However, there is always something to learn from those that exist outside of our own attributes. Staying open and curious will always lead to some stage of enlightenment.

Leave something behind that your soul can connect to when it goes to the next plane of existence:

“Everyone must leave something behind when he dies…something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die…It doesn’t matter what you do, so long as you change something from the way it was before you touched it into something that’s like you after you take your hands away.” –Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451

This to me is one of the ultimate ways in which we make soul connections that last not only in this life plane but carries over to every other life plane that our soul has. Great examples are the souls of my children. I have endless, as far as I know, opportunity to change and shape and mold their souls from the way it was when they were born into something that is a reflection of my existence when my hands, my heart, my words are taken away. The same holds true when someone says to you that you are unforgettable. You have left a seed of yourself in their soul to last through infinity. What could be better than that?

Call to Action

Make a list of ways in which you can start to create intention toward making soul connections. Take small, meaningful steps toward bringing your intention to life. Recognize when a connection is grabbing your attention. Take time to notice where in your body you feel connected and notice how you feel. What words come up for you at that moment? How can you use those words to create more intention and pay it forward?

Good luck. I hope our souls meet someday…..

Journey On…..

If you would like to explore more about making soul connections or would like to learn how to activate your intentions toward purpose please call for a free discovery session in my Art of YOU coaching program. You can reach me by sending an email to: lisa@journeyoncoaching.com