“It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.”
― George Harrison
I would bet that for most of us Monday morning feels much like walking through ocean water, uphill, backwards, while it is raining and your eyes are closed. For even more of us life itself feels like this on a daily basis. UGH!!
Each week we hope that this Monday will be the day that will make all the difference for our hard work and sacrifice. We hope and/or wish deep down inside that this will be the week that everything changes for the better. The question is, what have you actually been doing to make that hope/wish a reality? Have you actually been here?
There is nowhere for you to get to; you are already here. What does it mean to plan for the future, to better your circumstances, to live in the notion of doing what you should and put off what you want? Every day is always now. Comedian/actress Lily Tomlin once said, “The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat.” I for one don’t want to be a rat. I want to win in increments and eventually feel like I don’t have to scurry and forage and bite.
As you know I am building my life coaching business. Building anything whether it is physical or metaphorical is hard work and as in the overall life equation nothing is for sure except death and taxes, as my father would say. This is not the first time that I am taking on the role of entrepreneur. In one of my previous apparitions I was a wedding photographer so creating a business is not new to me. What is new each time is the “how” and the “what”. I always like to start with the “why”. Why do I want to be a wedding photographer? Why do I want to be a life coach? Why do I want to start my own business? My “why” is always very important to discover. Suddenly, out comes my special paper that I reserve just for list making. I love making lists. Once I firmly and wholeheartedly find my “why” I am then able to work on my “what” and my “how”. I even created a template that helps me narrow down my “why” questions to help get me to my specific “how” and “what” of each business category. Some of the questions look like this:
1) What is the outcome I am hoping to achieve?
2) What benefit will my product/service have for someone?
3) What are my priorities and action steps I need to engage in to make this idea come to life?
4) What do I need to decide right now?
5) How will I use my strengths and values toward my product/service?
6) How will I implement each step I take?
The biggest question of all for me is how will I know I am HERE? I have created a list of 7 thoughts that help me know and help me stay focused on my here and now. I would like to share this list with you and invite you to think of anything more to add to the list.
You know you are HERE if…..
1) You remain present and mindful. This means that you are attentive and aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it. You stay focused on your current task, thought, objective.
2) You are fully engaged in your life moments. According to the father of the engaged life moments, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi wrote a book entitled, FLOW, The Psychology of Optimal Experience. Flow occurs when our thoughts and actions are deeply consumed by our projected outcome. Every part of our body is engaged in our creation process. We lose track of time and space and when we emerge on the other side of all of that creative energy we are changed and charged and feeling purposeful.
3) You are walking the talk. This means that you are completely believing and living your actions and that which you are creating and accomplishing. You talk about your purpose, you read about your purpose, you breathe your purpose, and you recruit believers to your purpose. People actually start to believe and see you as the winner of your intentions.
4) You are in touch with your energy. You know when you are feeling low and unmotivated but at that very moment you know what you need to do to re-energize your intention. This leads to the next idea….
5) You drink plenty of water. Water is a life sustaining element. We need it to flush our systems whether it is for digestion purposes or mental acuity purposes. In order to be in touch with our energy when we need to be we have to nourish our bodies to help them perform when we need them to perform.
6) You are feeling wide eyed. This is a bit deeper than energy. This speaks to our curiosity. In order to be HERE our curiosity must be peaked as much as possible. What more can I learn to help move my objective forward?
7) You constantly work your “to-do” list. Like I said, I love lists, especially “to-do” lists. These lists help me define my present moments, help create energy and objectives for each hour, day, week, and month. One of the greatest feelings I ever have is when I can cross an item off my “to-do” list. I instantly feel the amazing accomplishment the act of crossing off brings. Sure there will be items to add to another “to-do” list but that’s good. That means that I am moving ahead and have created new thought processes and new reasons to keep walking my talk, working my objective, staying on top of my purpose; my game.
Without going into definitions of each of the following, here is my list of 7 ways you know you are NOT here but you are actually way over there, somewhere, out in space…….
1) You are distracted and allow for distractions
2) You are unmotivated
3) You create excuses instead of meeting challenges
4) You feel like you are hiding away; not facing what needs to get done
5) You are projecting too far into the future; letting the work get too overwhelming
6) Your thoughts are on repeat or replay. You just can’t get out of the “song”, the excuses, the road blocks constantly playing and appearing in your head
7) You keep putting off the necessary and sometimes the unnecessary tasks
I know how hard it is to get up on Monday morning and face the prospect of another long week ahead. Setting small attainable goals each day, each hour or each 30 minutes helps break down the insurmountable mountain of a new week and a Monday morning. What I also know is that you can do this. If you are feeling more like your Monday mornings are created in excuses rather than challenges to be met then perhaps it is time to rethink your HERE?
“Don’t wait until everything is just right…There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. SO WHAT….Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger….”—Mark Victor Hansen
Call to Action
What is one thing you can do right now to help you be in the now?
How can you start to prevent procrastination?
How can you begin to get from here to there?