Are you the adult you want your children to become? Part 2….
“Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.”
― William Martin, The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents
In the fast paced world we live in and the immediacy of instant gratification it seems like being ordinary is not good enough, that we need to constantly be extraordinary. The poem above is proof that it is in the slowing down, the action of making the ordinary worth exploring and the action of giving permission for life to settle to its own level that makes life memorable and worthwhile in the ordinary.
In celebration of Mother’s Day how will you as the parent celebrate the ordinary? Take some time to reflect on how your children have benefited from the ordinary through your eyes as the parent. What did you see that you wanted them to see? An example of my thought process here is the fact that I celebrate my children’s half birthdays.
If you are up for sharing, tell me about your mother’s hands or tell me about her unique ways in which she celebrated the ordinary. I can’t wait to hear from you.